I know sometimes as females we seem to find ourselves in a rut of a relationship. We get mistreated and dogged out. The man that we love has done us beyond wrong and doesn't respect us. In life we all have to get "a no good man" so we'll know how to appreciate "a good man" when God blesses us with one. Well all cross that obstacle of a dog. Those type of men are what they are and for some reason we as women allow them to lower our self-esteem to the point where we think that they're the best for us and that no man will ever want us because were not good enough. So what do we do? We stay with the man that mistreats us because we feel like hopefully he'll change. WRONG, he's gonna keep treating you the same way as long as your with him. He's gonna keep cheating on you, controlling you and your every move, talking down to you and making you feel like your less of a woman. Do find comfort in that ladies because your better than that all you need to do is looking in the mirror put a smile on your beautiful faces and say "I am Beautiful, I am a great woman, and I deserve better". Once you can build up the courage to tell that man that its over than you can move on with your life. One thing you don't wanna do when you kick that dog to the curb is communicate with him. Because all he'll do is try to get in your head by playing innocent and acting sympathetic by saying things like: "Baby, i'm a changed man it took you leaving me to realize what i had", or "Oh baby i need help, i dont mean to do you wrong growing up that's all i seen, i need help and i want you to be apart of it", or "Baby i didn't know what i had until you were gone i'll never do you wrong again just give me a second chance". Ladies dont fall for it all you do is wish him well and keep it moving. Now while your single take the time to re-build what that dog tore down. Go shopping, get a new hair style, pamper yourself, build your self-esteem back up, get to know you again. The worst thing to do is try to look for a new man fresh outta ya old relationship, because all he'll be is a rebound and he may catch real feelings for you and you may not be feeling him like that and you'll end up hurting him in the process. So just wait awhile before you get back into the dating scene. Now once you've built yourself back up and your feeling more confident and you start dating again make sure that you NEVER take your frustrations out on the new man, the frustrations that the old man caused. From day one be real with the new guy that your interested in. Let him know that this is your first date in however many months. weeks, or even years. If the question about ya last relationship comes up be real. Let him know that the last guy you were with did you wrong, he lowered your self-esteem, and he made you feel like no man would ever want you. Then flip it and let the new guy know that that was your past and your lookin forward towards your future, your more confident and your self-esteem is no longer under the ground. Remember ladies there are still good men out there and they are willing to love and be loved. So you may have been hurt in the past and it maybe hard for you to trust but it's all a process and if your willing to go through the process it only shows that deep down inside your willing to give love another try. As always Stay Strong, Stay True, Be you♥
